It’s common for young children to cling to their caregivers — following you around, holding your hand tightly, or needing to be near you at all times. Experts say this kind of clinginess is totally normal and shows your child trusts and depends on you for safety and comfort, even if it feels overwhelming sometimes.

But don’t worry, there are warm, easy ways to help them feel secure and gently build independence.

Why Clinginess Happens, and Why It’s Okay

• It’s a normal stage in child development. Between about 7 months and two years old, many children go through an “attachment phase.” They stay close because they know you’re their safe base for exploring the world.
• It’s a sign of a healthy bond. When a child clings, it can mean they feel safe with you and trust you deeply.

Gentle Ways to Nurture Independence

1. Use a Loving, Predictable Routine

Children feel safer when they know what’s coming next: mealtime, playtime, nap time. A steady routine gives them comfort and a sense of control.

2. Offer Positive Attention Before the Clinginess Begins

Don’t wait until your child is clinging or upset. Spend calm, fun time with them, watch their game, notice their drawings, join their play. This connection often helps reduce clingy behaviour before it starts.

3. Start Small Separation Exercises

Practice stepping out of the room for a moment while your child plays nearby. Over time, gradually increase your brief absences so they grow more comfortable being apart.

4. Create a Comfort Object or Safe Reminder

Giving your child a favourite toy or blanket—something soft that reminds them of you—can help them feel secure when you’re not right there.

5. Help Them Understand Emotions with Understanding Words

Use simple language about feelings: “I see you feel worried when I leave. I’ll be back soon.” Let them know it’s okay to feel upset. Labeling emotions helps children understand and manage them.

6. Encourage Independent Play and Small Choices

Support solo play. Give them toys or a cozy spot and say, “You can play here while I do something close by.” Also, offer choices like, “Do you want the red cup or the blue cup?” This builds confidence and a sense of control.

7. Stay Calm and Set Gentle Boundaries

If your child clings in a way that’s overwhelming, it’s okay to say, “I need to sit down for a minute, but I’m right here.” Let them know you care but also have your own needs. Avoid frustration or guilt.

8. Keep Your Cool and Yourself Careful

Taking care of yourself helps you stay patient. Allow for short breaks when you can — nap, a quiet moment, a cup of tea — knowing it helps both of you stay balanced and calm.

When to Reach Out for Extra Support

If clinginess continues strongly beyond early childhood, or if your child shows big changes in sleep, eating, or school behaviour, it might help to get advice from a pediatrician or child psychologist.

Final Thought

Clinginess in early childhood isn’t a problem — it’s love in action. By offering predictable routines, gentle separations, emotional support, and your own calm presence, you’re guiding your child toward independence while keeping that precious connection strong.

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Discovery Point Nursery and Academy

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